Hello, friends!
I know I haven’t posted since last year, but I happened across this video today and I simply could not pass on weighing in on it. When I share this kind of {nonsense}, it is always, ALWAYS for someone to learn from it.
I have not watched this video all the way through, but I have watched the first two stories.
In the first one with the 16 year old girl, the language was so foul, before I turned and looked at my television screen, I thought it was an adult. Imagine my shock and dismay, to see a child spewing such language.
The way she cussed at the police officers and the school administration, blew my mind… and, it upset me greatly. Disrespectful children (and adults) cause me to see red.
I just knew the mom would come flying in, tears flowing, shocked that her daughter was in handcuffs… and possibly being arrested. But, if I’m being honest… deep down I knew that the mom wouldn’t be shocked at all at. There is no way that this child behaved that way at school AND with a police officer, and the mom wasn’t already aware of the range of her poor, distasteful behavior. The only surprising thing to me was the fact that the child calmed down in the presence of the mom. That was strange, and I’d love to know the backstory on that.
The way the mom was calmly helping her daughter to remove her jewelry, and kissing her on the cheek with a soft “I love you,” again, already in full acceptance of the fact that her daughter was in handcuffs and being arrested (or detained), was too much for me to witness.
Let me see how clearly I can paint this picture for you as to what would have happened if it were MY child in that situation… I WOULD BE UNDER THE JAIL, BECAUSE I WOULD HAVE KNOCKED HER SO FAR INTO THE NEXT WEEK FOR DISRESPECTING THOSE ADULTS, AND CUSSING AND CARRYING ON AS IF SHE WERE ALREADY GROWN! HOW EMBARRASSING!
Yes, I said it… and I meant every word! I don’t do disrespectful kids!
Before I go any further, I must point out that what I also found extremely upsetting, was that the girl was simply released back into the hands of her mother without any real consequence. No, they should have locked her up wherever they lock up kids who behave as egregiously as this one did. And, they should have kept her there for a couple of weeks – maybe then, she would have returned home with a REAL lesson learned under her belt. But again, I blame the parenting (and the police for that mistake). Like, what did she learn? Nothing! She’s going to do it again and again and again. All they did was embolden her.
I have two of the most respectful and obedient daughters in the world, and I have not EVER had to spank them. They are both amazing and successful adults. They don’t drink, they don’t smoke, they don’t swear, and are perfect examples of how children should turn out when raised properly. (I stress the word should because I know that there are those times when one just simply slips through the cracks).
I like to say that God knew exactly the kind to give me, because he knew what I’d do to the other kind. 🙂
My children were disciplined by our being crystal clear as to how they were to behave, teaching them right from wrong, and us having conversations with them about the importance of behavior and reputation. Yes, even kids have reputations. Hang around any elementary school, and you will quickly learn the reputation of kids as young as 6, 7, and 8 years old. THEY START WAY TOO YOUNG! You know the kids I’m referring to, little Jimmy or Sally in 1st grade who cusses their teacher, throws a desk around every now and again… the two all the teachers talk about. Like I said… the kids with the reputations.
I have never been my daughters’ friend. Why? Because I am their parent, and I’m sure that their friends don’t have the same expectations of them as I do.
I have said this time and time again, and I’ll go to my grave with the same belief… when you allow your children as small kids to behave inappropriately because you find it “cute” or “funny,” what you saw in the video above, is what you will get from them in their teenage years and beyond – DISRESPECT!
Loads of it!
My daughters KNEW that I wasn’t the mom to play with. They knew what I expected out of them academically, and what I expected from their behavior at home and away from home. The FIRST thing they were taught was RESPECT; respect for themselves, respect for adults, and respect for others (their peers).
Notice that the first area of respect was to be shown to themselves. Because when you respect yourself, it’s easy for you to respect others. It’s a no-brainer.
Parents, young parents especially, I know that social media is all the craze, and some of you are so excited to post your little darling online, being wayyyy too sassy for three years of age, or, you think that posting that video of her shaking her tailfeather at the age of two is just too cute for you to keep it to yourself… STOP! That’s where your problems will begin. What you’re going to find is that as they get older (and taller), and when they are being wayyyy too sassy to the teachers at school, or a police officer who could easily bash their head in (because they feel that they can – they don’t like disrespectful kids, either), or, when they are telling you to F$%@ off in church, you won’t think it all that funny, will you? Well, I hope you won’t.
My advice to you is to raise them properly NOW, while they are still young babies, and be CONSISTENT about that parenting, because when you start them off right, it will be hard for them to stray far from that teaching. Trust me! This advice is tried and true… I don’t care what anyone else tells you.
I hope I have enlightened and helped someone today, because when we know better, we’re supposed to do better. Be better. Let’s be better parents for our kids (and grandkids).
Back then there were no handbooks for parenting, but now, there are millions of shelves filled with them. So, if you want advice, or, if you have a problem with your child that you need help with… just ask. I personally would be more than happy to guide you. Because the better our parenting, the better our world.
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